How do you handle your hurts? We all get hurt. People hurt us. Life hurts us. Nature hurts us. How do you handle it?
Do you hurt back? Eye for an eye. And it escalates. Trouble with this is eventually you run out of eyes. Retaliation is a normal response to pain.
Do you steam and stew? You don’t really retaliate, you just hate. You say, I forgive him but I won’t ever forget it. I often hear this. I will forgive but I will NEVER forget. The process of remembering is actually just an excuse for bitterness.
Do you spread the word? Hey, everyone this person hurt me and I need you to know. We used to have this lab/chow mix named Princeton. Picked it up as a stray and it always had that stray mindset. It liked to travel. We had a wooden fence and we had to put a latch at the top because she figured out how to get out. One day someone left it unlatched and she got out. We got home, and she’d been poisoned. She lived long enough for the boys to watch her die. It was awful. Matthew was seven. He was crying and angry and said, “I want to put up posters that say ‘Someone poisoned my dog!’”
Do you spread the pain? Sometimes you get mad at everyone else. Did you see the old Fed Ex superbowl commercial? A dinosaur eats the pterodactyl that was carrying a caveman’s stick. The caveman tells his boss who asks, “Did you use FedEx?”
“Then your fired.”
“But FedEx doesn’t exist yet!”
“Not my problem.”
The caveman walks out of the cave and kicks the dinosaur.
Sometimes we kick the dog. Or we kick the family.
Do you pretend you aren’t hurt? Some will do this. I’m ok. Nothings wrong. Stoic resolve. Hurt? Who’s hurt? They’re like the Black Knight in Monty Python’s “Holy Grail.” He has his arm lopped off, but still insists, “Tis only a scratch, a flesh wound!”
Macho pain response won’t make it hurt any less.
All of these are natural responses. And I hate to admit it, but I think I’ve done all at one time or another. It’s hard not to.
Let me ask that question again.
How DO you handle the hurts?
Here’s what the Bible says, take them to Jesus.
(Psalms 147:3) He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds.