Get Your Hearts Together

I’ve collected some old quotes on marriage.

“Men are like a fine wine.   They all start out like grapes, and it’s our job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you’d like to have dinner with.”
               –Kathleen Mifsud
I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage.   They’ve experienced pain and bought jewelry.
               — Rita Rudner
Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards.
              — Benjamin Franklin
My wife dresses to kill. She cooks the same way.
               — Henny Youngman
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
             — Rodney Dangerfield
A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong.
             — Milton Berle
I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury.
             — George Burns
What’s the difference between a boyfriend and a husband? About 30 pounds.
             –Cindy Garner

Why are those funny?  There is a kernel of truth in all of them.

Francis Bacon said, “Imagination was given man to compensate for what he is not, and a sense of humor to console him for what he is.”

The sad truth is, many marriages are not doing well.  If you are in one that that’s not going well,  you don’t know whether to laugh or cry.  Mostly you cry.

Proverbs 17:1 Better is a dry morsel and quietness with it Than a house full of feasting with strife.

That’s a powerful truth. No matter how much you make, no matter what you achieve. If the marriage is bad the rest is bad. Its better to own nothing and have a good marriage.

Let me help. One quick insight. Develop a common dream.

I always ask young couples, what do you want life to look like in thirty years. They don’t even really think about that. I do it to force them to see if their dreams are the same. If we don’t’ have the same dream then we won’t have the same values and goals.

Philippians 2:2 was written to the church, but it could also be written to every marriage.

Philippians 2:2 make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.

God’s plan for marriage is two heads with one heart. If your heart isn’t together then its like a symphony where every instrument tries to play its own score. Its like a machine where the gears don’t quite mesh. Its like . . . misery.

If you are married I want you to do something. Sit down with your mate and ask, “What are we here for? What is our purpose? What do we hope to do with this life?”

Get your hearts together.

 

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